One month.

April 22, 2010

It's been one month since The Boy and I have been hitched. One month of learning how to share a queen size bed, cook dinner for two without having two weeks worth of leftovers (still perfecting this), memorize each other's Starbucks order and occasionally have an adult conversation where one or two of the parties disagree with the other. Just kidding. We haven't had a fight yet.


This past month has been a very changing, transitional, eye-opening month into the world of marriage. Here is my insightful list of ten things I have learned on my own over these last thirty days.

1. Be gentle with words. How you say something can be just as important as what you say.

2. A sincere apology can change the path of the entire day.

3. We need to make it a priority to be each other's safest place.

4. Make it a habit to compliment each other freely and speak of your love for one other as often as it comes to mind.

5. Expect a time of transition and change and embrace it with an open, understanding and willing heart. (No one told me to expect this one... even though it seems so obvious.)

6. Seek to understand and don't hold onto expectations. (Or you will be be continuously let down.)

7. I am a lot more selfish than I first thought and it can be very hard learning how to become more selfless.

8. There are tough days and moments. Compromise is a must and we both have to loosen the grip on certain things.

9. I still need to feel pursued and wanted. Maybe even more now than when we were dating and engaged.

10. Marriage is one of the hardest changes, but also one of the best.

If you have any wisdom to share, please pass it along. We're still trying to figure it all out but I feel like we've come a long way so far in the short time we've had to experience it all.

And it is good.
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  1. Thought I warned you....but like everything else in have to experience it yourself to figure it out. And it will take months and months...maybe years...of adjustment. And one day you will get it all figured out. And then the first baby comes. Etc. Etc. Etc.

    Please be flexible. Pick your battles. Speak clearly and literally to each other. Neither of you are mind readers. You will save a lot of time by telling each ohter what you like and what you don't like....instead of waiting for the other to figure it a door slamming or pouting session.


    xoxo, Mama

  2. You will change, he will change, your relationship will change but it's OK! You will continually learn each other and redefine your relationship. Even after (almost) 5 years things still 'click' and Brian wonders how I never figured it out before, haha! Even on the days you don't 'like' Chris, you can still be whole-heartedly committed and in love with him. Sometimes the committment will outweigh the feeling but there are plenty of days where it's the other way around. Marriage is a great journey ;-)

    My little tidbits...


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