Speaking of vulnerable.

September 12, 2013

A couple of months ago, I saw a Facebook post on Huffington Post Parents asking for readers to share their breastfeeding stories: the good, the bad, the pretty, the ugly.

It's no secret that I struggled to nurse Liam in those first few weeks. In fact, I don't want it to be a secret. The truth is, it was hard and it put me in a bad place mentally and physically.

So I shared my story.

{teaming up to wash bottles}

They called me, we talked, and they translated our conversation into an article.

I've been anticipating this being published for almost two months now. I know it's a sensitive topic and I was so afraid of judgmental comments. Because what I've found most hurtful during the whole process of figuring this motherhood thing out, is that other mothers are the worst offenders.

Can we please make a pact as mamas that we'll treat each other with grace and kindness even if we're not all on the same page? 

We're in the business of raising little humans, and that is probably the most daunting, exhausting and impossible task of them all.

I hope if you're planning on nursing, that it works out beautifully and that you get the support and care you need. And if it doesn't, I hope you give yourself grace much sooner than I did (which was, like, maybe a month ago, kind of).

So far, I've received supportive and encouraging comments, mostly telling me I'm not the only one on this planet that struggled.

And after six months, that's still what I need to hear.

(This article is part of an ongoing series with so many other encouraging stories.)

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  1. It's so awesome that they published your story! My son took really well to breastfeeding and I LOVED the experience. However, my supply just wasn't where it needed to be. After trying everything, we started supplementing where I would breastfeed until he was done, then give him a bottle. That made feedings last almost an hour! Then I started only pumping to cut down on the time, but we eventually switched over to exclusive formula feeding. I had a lot of other moms that would say things in conversation about breastfeeding (not knowing my story) and would make me feel bad. My husband helped me realize that by giving up on breastfeeding because it wasn't working for us, I did my son a favor! I made the best decision I could as a mother! Rest assured in knowing that you did that as well! So sorry this has gotten so long! :)

  2. You are an absolute star for sharing in this way. The strange thing is that the more that we are honest about how difficult it can be the more likely that mums will start getting the help we need to make it work if it can (and it obviously can't always and never has throughout history!)

    Am pinning this and the Huff Post piece. Thanks so much as always for sharing at the Friday Baby Shower, Alice x


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